Timothy C. Donovan
It is not easy reaching out for help, especially when in pain about your relationship! It takes caourage!
Who can you trust? Couples oten tell me, who can we trust trust to understand and support our relationship?
Two studies have shown that a couple will wait, on average, seven years before reaching out for help.
I hope to narrow the gap there – – help couples see that couples or marital therapy not as a failure but more as a way to a better future for their relationship, in fact, the one they have been longing for.
Several years ago, after working as a generalist so to speak, I began devoting my practice to working with couples on what they want to create in their relationship.
To be honest, too, I have also learned so much from the couples I have seen over the years. In fact it is the hard work that many couples put in that energizes me to learn more about couples, marriages, committed relationships, and couples therapy.
More About Tim:
Tim is also a husband, father, grandfather-called Papi, adjunct faculty member, skier, scuba diver, and former softball player. And he still loves riding motorcycles.
Marianne, my wife, will tell you there isn’t a job I haven’t had, and there is some truth to that. Before I fell into cooking and became a professional cook/chef. I started by working in a small restaurant/hotel outside of Interlaken, Switzerland as an apprentice. I have worked in both Valais and Berner Oberland regions of Switzerland, England, and the US.
Anyone who has worked as a cook/chef can tell you that the hours can take a toll on a relationship and I had two young children. So about thirty years ago, I turned to social work and the rest is history.
I have worked in a variety of mental health and substance use settings, e.g., halfway houses, inpatient and outpatient substance use facilities, inpatient psychiatric hospitals, mental health clinics for children and families, and crisis centers.
Now I work with couples on their marriage and their relationship.
I often tell couples if I do anything, it is that I tie together their hard work. It is a maxim that I believe to be true.
Couples can be very vulnerable in therapy; it feels scarey that many share things in my office that they would prefer not even to admit to themselves.
The only criterion I tell a couple I need to do my work is their desire to repair the relationship.
My walls are filled with my wife, Marianne’s artwork made especially with my input for my office, along with a cozy sofa. I spend a lot of time there, so I want it to reflect who I am.